Vagina & Pleasure 101
Muffin, fanny, pink taco, vag, bits, vajayjay, box, bean, twat flower… must I go on?
If there is anything that being a sexuality educator has taught me is that people are uncomfortable with anatomically correct sexual words. If there is a way to skirt around having to say vagina, it will be done.
Vaginas, like sex, have been a taboo topic for too long. In fact, there wasn’t even a medical term for the vagina until around the 1680s. Before that (and honestly even after and today) vaginas have been viewed as mysterious or even treacherous.
And the craziest part of all of this…..vagina doesn’t even mean what you think it means. Vagina is simply one part of female genitalia but for some reason it is used as a catch-all. So, let’s get educated.
The Vulva
Welcome to the true name of the external female genitalia. The vulva, or as Dr. Lindsay Doe likes to call it “the vagina’s neighborhood”, is the true word for all of the structures that make up the external genitalia. The vulva consists of the; mons pubis, labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, vestibular bulbs, vulva vestibule, Bartholin's glands, Skene's glands, urethra, and vaginal opening. Okay that might seem like a lot but most of those things are either too small to be seen or neatly hidden and protected behind the vaginal lips. Source
Let’s take a look:
Don’t be overwhelmed, I promise when we break it down it’s not that complicated! Let’s stick to the parts that we should definitely know.
The Clitoris
Ah the clitoris, the only organ in the world that’s only job is to create pleasure. It is truly the miracle organ but it wasn’t until recently that there was any medical research done on it. Why? Because unfortunately female pleasure was not considered very important. But times have change
d and now we know that the clitoris has MORE THAN 10,000 nerve fibers in it. Oh by the way, nerve fibers and nerve endings send messages to our brain like ouch or damn that feels good. And enough of those positive messages can create a mind blowing orgasm. Soooo yeah the clitoris is where it is at.
How to pleasure the clitoris
Most women can only orgasm if the clitoris is being stimulated. It is an incredibly important body rt but the biggest problem is that most people can not find it.
Find the clitoris and get some lube
The clit is located where the inner lips meet at the top. It is north of both the vaginal opening and the urethra (pee hole)
If you can’t visually see it, guide your fingers along side the internal lips until you reach the top and find some loosish skin that feels like it is over a tiny shaft
Rub that tiny shaft
Yeap, just like a penis the clitoris likes to be rubbed
Try a back and forth motion over the shaft, or different sized circles around it, or maybe up and down next to it
Be gentle & try to steer clear of the gland or head of the clitoris that comes out from the clitoral hood. For most it is too sensitive to be touched directly
The Lips
Vulva’s have two sets of lips, the outer (labia majora) and the inner (labia minora). They are there to protect all the parts of the vulva from whatever evils may be just beyond the magical beef curtains. They also help the vulva owner get as much pleasure as possible. That’s right they also nerve fibers and nerve endings as well as erectile tissue. Which means that when you are hot and bothered they swell with blood. Th
e lips come in tons of different shades of anything from pink to brown to black and they also vary in size. Some inner lips might be longer than the outer and sometimes one is longer than the other. All vulvas are unique and in my opinion beautiful.
How to pleasure the lips
Yeap, even the lips deserve some love. Because the inner lips actually sit over top of the ‘legs’ of the clitoris, rubbing them can lead to loads of pleasure. Make sure the area is slippery. Either get some lube or spend some more time on foreplay like massage or make out. Rub them up and down or try some light tapping
The Vagina
We have finally landed on the spot that everyone seems to know and love the most (or it is the only spot they know). The vagina is the muscular canal that leads from the vulva to the cervix. And besides being a great spot to penetrate for sexual pleasure, they also are the hallway which takes out the period trash and the magic doorway for a new human to crawl through. The vagina is self cleaning, bacteria balancing, orgasm achieving, wetness excreting and sexually elongating, sounds pretty bad ass to me.
How to pleasure the vagina
Make sure the vagina is wet, sometimes that can happen on it’s own (the body releases secretions when it is aroused) or use some lube
Use any type of phallic object to insert
Start slow, the vagina gradually expands as arousal heightens so please do not rush into it
Try something with a vibration to really reach those nerve fibers on the side
Angle up, literally
Point the phallic object (penis or toy) towards the anterior wall of the vagina (the part that is closer to the belly button) this way you will be stimulating both the vagina and the g-spot (but internally)
ASK THE VAGINA OWNER WHAT THEY LIKE
Hey if you’re reading this as a vagina owner for yourself my best suggestion is to experiment. Seriously, use your toys to well, play. Now that you know all about nerve endings and where to find them, try out different ways to hold/move your fingers or sex toys. Play around until you’ve found the gold
If you are not the vagina owner in question, then use your communication skills and ask them what they like or if they like what you are doing. Remember that every vagina is different, so be patient when sailing through new water.
Fun Facts (the last one had me gasp)
there was not a medical term for the female sexual passage until around the 1680s
ancient greek physician Aretaeus believed that the uterus wandered around the female body (like an animal within an animal)
he also believed that is could be drawn back into place by fragrant smells
it was also a common belief that men and women just straight up shared the same sexual organs
in the roman empire, Galen the premiere medical researcher at the time, believed that the vagina was just an inside-out penis
it was the assumption that male bodies were the standard for all human bodies
AND it was not until 1994 that the US national institutes of health mandated that most clinical trials include women
this was still based on the assumptions that all drugs that worked on men would just work on women
I’m not just going to pretend like the other parts of the vulva don’t matter, they do. But if we are doing our best to understand the vagina and pleasure in a 101 lesson the clitoris, lips and vagina are kind of the most important parts to start out with. If you want to learn about the other spots come back for some more lessons!
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